As a concerned friend or parent, you may want to reach out but you may not be sure how to begin.
written by Micaelia Randolph, EdD, MA
Educational Consultant
reviewed by Erin Hoolihan, PsyD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
When someone is anxious or depressed, one of the indicators can be withdrawing and not necessarily wanting to talk, yet talking is one of the best ways to begin healing.
It’s difficult to witness that situation if you are concerned about the person. Your role is that of a calm and concerned presence and an empathetic listener who does not judge or try to solve the problem. The goal is to get the person to start talking and begin to relieve the pressure of holding everything in. Be consistent.
Parents/caregivers: Your child or teen may not open up on your first attempt, but don’t give up. Continue to offer space and support so your child will turn to a trusted adult or friend when they need help.
Download a copy 7 Caring Conversation Starters to Reach Your Child or Teen with Anxiety.
Conversation Starters
1. Let’s go for a walk (suggest something that the child/teen would enjoy)
2. You don’t seem quite like yourself these days.
3. I’ve noticed you . . .don’t see your friends as much, you’ve been eating less, spend more time in your room etc.
4. What’s going on? Are you OK?
5. Can we talk about it?
6. I’m so glad you shared with me what you’re going through.
7. I care about you and I’m here for you.
Keep checking in to show your concern.
This resource is part of CHC’s Anxiety and Depression Guide.
Download a copy of 7 Caring Conversation Starters to Reach Your Child or Teen with Anxiety. See CHC’s Anxiety and Depression Guide for more resources on this topic.
